Why I want to Divorce My Wife whom I Love Dearly
74Disabled Husbands Plight
We've been married a little over a year,and for me it has been the greatest year of my life. And I want it to continue till my dying day,but our finances suck,we both get $478.00 a month from social security,thats $984.00 a month to live on.We no longer get food stamps because in 1999 my wife got caught with drugs and went to prison.She did her time and has been clean for over two years now.But we were still denied public housing,and my food stamps were cut off for the third time since we have been married. The $105.00 a month food stamps helped us eat healthier. I have been trying to convince my wife to give me a divorce so we will have more money to pay our bills with. We'll get $1274.00 a month if we divorce,but she refuses to live in sin.
I have thought about just leaving one day and moving back to Alabama,and have my funds transferred down there and come back when the divorce is final. She cried all night when I told her about my plans. I feel so helpless right now. I'm not able to work because of a 5lb lifting limit and shorts walks make my abdomen swell in the area where the damaged nerves are. So until I get my next operation working is out of the question.
And to top things off she still doesn't have medical coverage,only a free clinic for her many ailments. She desperately needs a motorized wheel chair because I keep hurting myself trying to push hers uphill,and over curbs,and lift it into the car. But somehow we manage. I'm asking anyone out there to show us how to raise funds to get her a chair. If we get divorced we can use the extra money every month to make payments on a chair.A company came to our apartment complex and demostrated a new chair that comes in three pieces and the heaviest piece is only 35lbs.but the thing costs $4,000.00 and with an extra $290.00 a month if we get divorced we could afford it.
I see no other way right now to get it for her,she would rather do without it than get divorced. I'm trying to be logical about this am I wrong? It's a miracle she hasn't broken anything with 1078 falls and counting,but her faith in God keeps her going. I was scared to death this election because The Republicans wanted to cut medicaid and medicare benifits. I owned my business for 25 years until cancer forced me to close it.I paid into the system all those years and now I have to depend on that system to support me. I hate living like this,I left my mothers house when I was 16 and I have made it on my own all these years.Now to depend on SSI is demeaning I feel like a welfare case. And in all my adult life I never even filed for unemployment,or any kind of assistance. But we never know what life has in store for us.
Should I divorce her or shouldn't ??????????????????
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What the hell is wrong with you? Your considering divorcing your wife just so you can get some more money? Divorce is for people who are unhappily married, not people who want more money. I could really care less what disability you have, if you can walk, talk, drive a car and roam the internet, there is a job out there you can do. Should you divorce your wife because of your greed for money, I hope she finds and nice guy that will marry her for who she is, not for what she offers financially.
Unfortunately, you both have serious medical issues that are in the way of your growth. There are alot of elements missing that we can help you with, as far as advice is concern. I would start with the medical challenges that you both have, and try to work your way out of the trenches. I agree w/Minnesota about the ability to find work. Don't be a coward and just leave your wife by way of abandonmnet (((That's Dumb))). You don't sound like a Dumb Dude. If you didn't care you wouldn't be blogging! So my advice is when you've come to the end of your rope tie a knot and hang on... God is on the way! I would apply the one of the oldest Cliches in the book and that is: "You never know what you got til' it's gone" Think about that before you leave the one you that got you to the point of wanting her for the rest of your life.
I think the USA sucks!
Are you shitting me? $880 a month for the two of you to live off? I make that in a WEEK!! (I live outside the US tho)
What happened to America? Where did the 'dream' go?
I hope you sort it out...
I've been married nine years...and it sucks....but I love her...what is a guy to do? I do help my wife in all areas...but I sleep alone, sex is virtually non-existant and we never date....we have one kid...if you don't have all this above, then screw you, stop bitching and get on with your life.
hey i worked 36 years of my life hard paid in out the oooooo what do i get for it 477 a month..... but i gave my life over to GOD its the only way i to can't get low housing but god sees my way for me iof you really belive with you're heart god will take care of you i'm living proof
I know couples with four or more children and are living on less than your combined incomes. There are things you can do to make extra money. You could get an account on HubPages to make extra money when people reading your articles click on ads.
Become a vender of a small business. You could sell things sitting down if you cannot stand long. You only need a small amount of seed money. Check with a rehabilitation center to see how that can be done. Also, ask them about programs that place some disabled individuals on full or part-time jobs that they can perform. I have seen small vending businesses in federal buildings and other places. Many sell snacks and cold drinks.
Contact at least 10 churches in your area and 20, or more, friends, and ask them to donate their clean, usable items that could be sold for money, and begin selling from your carport or garage or turn a storage room into a store. They will likely remember you and donate again.
Every year I clean my closets and storage rooms and separate useful items from throw-aways. I take the usables to a Goodwill or Gateway store. Many families donate their children's clothes, that they outgrow, to thrift stores. Children do not usually wear clothes long enough to ruin them.
Sell freeze cups or buy those 32-count freeze pops that cost a little more than $2.00. If you sell each one for .25, you could profit $6.00 for each package of 32's.
I do not know your limitations, but I am giving you a few ideas that you might find useful. I wish you well.
Another thought:
Use a small plot to plant a few expensive vegetables that you both enjoy. I enjoy fried green tomatoes that cost over $3.00 a pound in many stores. I have bought them, but I have a small garden plot where I grow my own. There isn't anything like fresh home-grown vegetables. Squash is easy to grow and usually produces bountifully. It is all about what you enjoy. You could save a surprising amount of money on groceries with just a small plot of vegetables.
Do not give in to divorce. You can beat this.
anon 3 years ago
i think you are a good man, you have done all you can. if your wife doesnt understand then i think she might be being a bit selfish. you are thinking about yourself AND your wife, which i think is admirable. if i were you then i would divorse her after she completly understands my reason, but until then i would try to prove myself.
hope this helps PS. im only 15